I have a list of pre-teen girls that I could just throttle right now.
I hated being a pre-teen girl because of the way pre-teen girls treat other pre-teen girls, and I hate that my daughter is now enduring the same treatment.
One of her classmates has a birthday party coming up next month. So does Camryn. Camryn originally had her party planned for the 13th (it's just two girls going out to dinner with us and then spending the night). When Camryn invited her friend (I will her call "B"), she said that she cannot come on the 13th. B also has a March birthday and has divorced parents, so I guess there have to be multiple birthday celebrations. No big deal. We changed the date to the 20th to accommodate her. "No can do!" says B. "What if we do it on the 6th?" Camryn asked. B can't do that, either. I told Camryn to give up on her and find someone else (because I think she's just trying to avoid coming to the party), but what do you do when you only have 2 close friends you want to invite ? Bless her heart. Tough situation.
But it doesn't end there. Now two girls a grade above Camryn are pretending to be B's friends so they can snag an invite to her birthday party. These 2 girls, along with one other girl, did the very same thing to Camryn last year. They got really nice to Camryn after hearing about the party (we had mani/pedis done at a salon and a spend the night party) They were invited and came to the party, but have been sort of cool to Camryn since then.... definitely a big step down from the "buddy buddy" treatment she got right before the party. One of them has even been downright mean and rude to my daughter. I tried to tell Camryn what was going on last year, but she didn't get it. She thought they were really trying to be her friends. And now they've struck again.
B has always sat by Camryn at lunch and hung out with her at school. Now B can't be bothered with Camryn because these other 2 girls are always trying to get B to sit with them, hang out with them, etc. because of the upcoming party. Camryn knows that as soon as the party is over these two lovelies will stop hanging around B, but in the meantime, Camryn is left without a friend. It hurts. I know it hurts, and I am powerless to stop it.
I hate to tell my sweet daughter that it doesn't get any easier as a grown up, either. Women just get more vicious and underhanded.
Sigh.
6 comments:
I don't know which is harder - our growing up or growing up with our kids. Both stunk. So sorry for Camryn. Claire had her bit of nonsense last year, learned and moved on. I do hate to see her hurt. So hard to tell them to go out and engage the world when you know inevitably they'll get hurt somehow.
Hate to tell you, but the drama continues right through high school. We're going through a particularly hurtful issue right now with McKelle and a couple of so-called friends. I wish, just for a little while, she could see from a down-the-road perspective.
Aww poor Camryn. I think back to those days and I have lots of memories like this. Thankfully, as I got older and a little wiser, it got better. But even today, it's hard to lose a friend...no matter the circumstances.
Hugs for you and Camryn both. Really. So hard to watch your child go through something like this. Hang in there.
Give Camryn a big hug from me okay? You are right....when you post about women! :(
People you think will be around forever aren't and sometimes the ones that you think will only stay for a season end up staying for a lifetime!
Sending hugs to both of you!
Cyn
Oh, I hate things like this. And I am so not looking forward to that when Katherine gets there. Girls can be really really mean. I'm so sorry that Camryn is hurting.. Give her HUGS.
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